These days, you’re both just trying to keep the peace…because bringing up anything “real” means yet another fight.
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One argument leads to another, and before you know it, you're both resentful and upset, wondering if this is just as good as it gets. You're stuck in a loop, where the highs feel as intense as the lows, and the good moments seem fleeting.
You might be in a newer phase of your relationship—newly married or with young children—and it feels like you're more roommates than partners. You’re not fighting, but you're also not connecting. There’s a palpable distance, and you find yourself wanting to ask, “Are you still there?” It’s lonely handling everything on your own, especially when you're supposed to be a team.
Or maybe you've been together for years, still committed to each other, but stuck in the same rut. You crave emotional connection, but your partner doesn't seem to understand what that looks like. Small issues turn into big fights, making you feel unheard and misunderstood. It makes you wonder if this is just a phase, a bigger problem….or if the relationship can even work at all.
Sound like what you’re going through?
If any of this resonates with you, chances are you've considered therapy before—or at least thought about getting some kind of support. It’s time for a change—for both of you. You're ready to break these cycles and rebuild something healthier, more connected, and more fulfilling.​​
Because let’s face it:
Even the strongest relationships face challenges.
HOW I CAN HELP
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I’m here to help you both remember—or learn for the first time—that conflict is part of the human experience, and reacting to it is too. But those moments—shutting down, walking away, or pushing for answers—are just your nervous system trying to protect you and your connection. These reactions might not feel great in the moment, but they come from a place of care and a desire to preserve the relationship you have.
This is where Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) comes in. I use this approach to help couples understand the cycles they get stuck in, looking at them through an attachment lens. When your relationship feels off, it’s usually not just about the surface stuff you’re arguing about—it’s about deeper feelings like insecurity or fear of losing connection. EFT helps us dig into those feelings and see the ways you’re both trying to protect what you care about, even if it’s not coming across that way.
Together, we’ll uncover what’s really going on underneath the arguments or disconnection. You’ll learn to communicate what you need in a way that brings you closer, not farther apart. The goal isn’t to figure out who’s right or wrong—it’s about helping you both feel seen, heard, and safe in your relationship again.​
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Learn how to communicate (and actually be heard)!
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Identify what your relationship needs
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Break old patterns that aren’t working
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Reignite your connection
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WITH THERAPY YOU CAN…
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Team up instead of squaring off
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Set and reach goals together
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Keep calm in the heat of the moment
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See things from your partner’s perspective​
Couples therapy is an opportunity for you and your partner to take a step back and really understand each other. You can find better ways to communicate, tackle tough moments, and get to the root of what’s really going on. I’m here to equip you with the tools to break old patterns and build something stronger.
Repair, reconnect, and thrive as a team.
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What if my partner doesn’t want to come to therapy?It’s common for one person to feel unsure about therapy. I totally get it—opening up about your relationship can feel intimidating. Therapy isn’t about assigning blame or choosing sides, it’s about helping both of you feel heard and supported. If your partner is hesitant, we can talk about how therapy can feel safe and helpful for both of you. I also offer individual therapy for relationships, where we can work on understanding your needs, improving communication skills, and exploring ways to strengthen your connection—even if your partner isn’t ready to join. You can still make meaningful changes that positively impact your relationship. Learn more HERE.
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Will therapy make us fight more?It’s completely normal to feel nervous about this! Therapy isn’t about going over fights or stirring up conflict—it’s about understanding the emotions and needs that fuel those disagreements. My role is to help you navigate these conversations in a way that builds connection and understanding, so you can feel more supported and less stuck.
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What if we’ve already tried couples therapy before this?I know it can be frustrating if therapy hasn’t worked in the past, but that doesn’t mean it can’t help now. My approach focuses on creating a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamics and emotions. It’s like a fresh start with tools that can really make a difference.
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Is couples therapy only for people who are thinking about splitting up?No, therapy isn’t just for couples on the brink. It’s for anyone who wants to strengthen their relationship, whether you’re feeling distant, stuck, or just want to communicate better.