You’re always the one putting more effort into the relationship.​
Maybe you keep ending up in relationships where you’re the one doing all the work—giving, fixing, managing—while your own needs go unmet. You know you should set boundaries, but every time you try to hold firm, guilt starts to
creep in.
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If you or your partner have ADHD, it can feel like you’re speaking two different languages. You try to stay connected, but their brain—or yours—struggles to prioritize the relationship, even though you know they care. And if you’re honest, you’ve probably been handling most things on your own for a long time—relationships, work, life in general. You’ve learned not to ask for help because for so long, no one else has been there for you.
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Deep down, you know something needs to change. I’m here to tell you there’s hope: these relationships can improve, you can know whether to stay or walk away, and you don’t have to do it alone. Together, we can figure out what’s not working and create a new way forward—one that feels good for you.
Healthy relationships begin when you understand who you are.
HOW I CAN HELP
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This is a place to press pause, sort through the noise, and finally understand what’s keeping you stuck.
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I work from an attachment-based perspective, which means we’ll explore your challenges through the lens of your relationships—whether it’s how you relate to yourself or to others. Our attachment system is wired for survival, so when we feel threatened in relationships, our brains can react as though it’s life or death. (That’s why some interactions can feel so intense or confusing). By understanding how this works, we can start to unravel those responses without judgment, helping you make sense of your emotions in a way that feels more manageable and empowering.
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I also use Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy (EFIT), which helps to slow down and dig into what’s really going on beneath the surface. You might know things in your head, but real change happens when we tap into how it’s making you feel. With EFIT, we’ll get to the heart of your emotions and start to understand how your past experiences are influencing the way you feel and react today. Once you understand that, you can begin to make small, meaningful changes in how you show up in your relationships—with yourself and others.
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I’m here to validate what you’re feeling and remind you that you don’t have to navigate these challenges alone. Together, we’ll explore what’s really going on—the good, the bad, the messy parts, and all—and create a path forward that feels grounded, compassionate, and full of possibility. I believe you deserve to feel understood, supported, and empowered in your relationships—and I want to help you get there.
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Learn how to communicate (and actually be heard)!
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Identify what your relationship needs
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Break old patterns that aren’t working
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Reignite your connection
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WITH THERAPY YOU CAN…
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Team up instead of squaring off
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Set and reach goals together
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Keep calm in the heat of the moment
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See things from your partner’s perspective​